Posts Tagged ‘Pride’

I hear about problems, I never hear about solutions. Real practical solutions, solutions that real people face and overcome. I understand that this is yet another of many blogs caught in the cog, you can feel that way or you can embrace the content. I write from life and life’s experiences. I tell people the most important thing in life is experience. We have to become partakers of the experience, be unafraid to show our frailties as humans. Listen carefully as I say this “your experiences determine your route” it helps you to solve problems to understand better “you” your experience. Here comes the rub. I hear we can’t or must not lean to our own understanding but to  simply cast our cares to him for he cares for us. Calm down, take a deep breath but thats the dumbest most defeatist garbage i’ve ever heard. Your greatest teacher wether you like it agree or disagree is life. Look at it this way have you meet people who aren’t therapist but have a wealth of information and their lives intact? There’s good reason for one they are probably good listeners. They read books from varying sources and share in life conflicts to a road to awareness. This is the ultimate place or road we want to be on. Now for the antidote…

These things seem simple enough, but not practiced or put into any practical application. I want to give to you three sources that Ive used through out my many years of growth and life that continue to serve me well to this very day. Mind you this is a span of twenty or more years. It has helped me to overcome obstacles and how to resist getting in my own way. We have a choice not depending on what a deity thinks but depending on what “we” think based and linked to our experiences. Since I come from a biblical background i’m here speaking in reference to to God or Jesus. If you study Romans 9 which is an interesting topic. Maybe next we can do a brief study, it will be interesting and enlightening. Either God gives us the ability to think or we think for ourselves, this is an old battle that needs to be looked at, observed and reasoned with.

I’ve broken this down in three sections, being aware, meditation, and lastly choosing to be…

Being Aware

In her ground breaking work that change my life forever “The WAY of the RONIN Riding the Waves of Change” by Dr. Beverly Potter  In chapter 11 under the title Think like a warrior page 86-87 It is easy to believe that the cause of downer emotions is external, out there somewhere, cause by something somebody else did, or didn’t do, when emotions are usually triggered by what we think about situations, the actual words in our minds and not the situation at all. How often do you hear yourself thinking, “He made me mad,” for example? Another person cannot make you mad. Events do not make emotions occur. What actually happens is that when an event occurs we evaluate it as positive or negative, good or bad, safe or threatening. Second, outside of our conscious awareness we make rapid evaluations of events, the most basic being:”Is there a threat?” Anytime our minds determine that, yes indeed, there is a threat, the stress response instantly kicks in, mobilizing us to fight or flee. All of this occurs without and conscious thought.

Meditation

Another great source that helped me along the way “how to meditate” by Kathleen McDonald I will be quoting from several pages in no particular order Meditation is an activity of mental consciousness. It involves on part of the mind observing, anal yin, and dealing with the rest of the mind. Meditation can take many forms: concentrating single-pointedly on an (internal) object, trying to understand some personal problem, generation a joyful love for all humanity, praying to an object of devotion, or communicating with our own inner wisdom. Its ultimate aim is to awaken a very subtle level of consciousness and to use it to discover reality, directly and intuitively.

Meditation is not spacing-out or running away. In fact, it is being totally honest with ourselves: taking a good look at what we are and working with that in order to become more positive and useful, to ourselves and others. Our mental disorders, delusions, jealousy, anger, desire, PRIDE. Theses arise from our misunderstanding of reality. Through meditation we can recognize our mistakes and adjust our mind to think and react more realistically, more honestly.

When we have problem or we feel emotionally upset, we can sit down and make our mind calmer with a fee minute of meditation on the breath. Then, taking a step back from our thought and emotions, we can try to understand what’s going on. “What kind of thoughts are going through my mind? What emotions are arising?” Within the calm, clear space of meditation, it will be easier to recognize where our thinking is erroneous and to adjust it by bringing in more realistic and beneficial ideas that we have learned from our spiritual study and practice.

Choosing to be…

Another book that I’ve had for some time that is still groundbreaking to this day “PSYCHO-CYBERNETICS A New Technique of Using Your SUBCONSCIOUS POWER” By Maxwell Maltz, M.D.,F.L.C.S. A little tidbit, “Psycho-Cybernetics is a term coined by Dr. Maxwell Maltz, which means, “steering your mind to a productive, useful goal so you can reach the greatest port in the world, peace of mind.” In the chapter You Can Acquire The Habit of Happiness under Happiness is Good Medicine Psychosomatic medicine has proved that our stomachs, liver, heart, and all our internal organs function better when we are happy. Proverbs 17:22 “A merry heart doth good like a medicine, but a broken spirit drouth up the bones.” As a means towards righteousness and the good life. Dr. Schindler has said that unhappiness is the sole cause of all psychosomatic ills and that happiness is the only cure. The very word “disease” means a state of unhappiness–“dis-ease.”

Happiness is not something that is earned or deserved. Happiness is not a moral issue, anymore than the circulation of the blood is amoral issue. Both are necessary to health and wellbeing. Happiness is simply a “state of mind in which our thinking is pleasant a good share of the time.”

In my conclusion I  recommend these three books and the three antidotes I prescribed. You can add your source from your belief. You have to remove yourself, since religion can be so selfish and dogmatic never believing someone or some other group to have appropriate answers or solutions. Cultivate your own happiness, learn to walk in it. Remember it is a practice, it is a choice.

Written by John the Revelator

Pride is probably our biggest enemy. It’s a self-inflicting enemy. It’s an enemy of the mind stemming from the heart wrapped in a falsity. Once its mulled over you begin to rationalize it. You then become the self-inflicting victim.

Pride has 2 meanings, one negative the other positive. For the negative meaning, foolishly and irrationally corrupt sense of one’s personal value, status or accomplishments. For the positive feeling of deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from ones own accomplishment.

Pride is a two-headed monster, one that has to be self-contained. The real question is, who controls the enemy within? The other perspectives are, do you have to self contained will or are you under the divine province of a deity’s rule? However you fancy it, pride is self-contained within each of all of us. Pride is selfish and agitating agent disguising itself a truth.

How do we self contain pride? We have to be mindful, meaning being aware. As street language goes, know when your being full of shit. But awareness allows us to see, truths we don’t want too see but need to see. The time pride works the most and best against you is when your hurt. This is the time we allow our guard down the most. This is when “you” begin to justify wrongdoing, and becoming postured to self-identity. As we continue lets see exactly what Proverbs 16:18 in relation to this. We can look to the scriptures, but we will notice one thing; conflict! Pride presents itself as negative in all respects except for maybe in 2Cor 5:12, 7:4. Even in Paul’s explanation it never is about the individual, since the individual is always incorrect. We can boast of others but not boast of ourselves. Remember we are reading form a different time period compared to our own, so denotations of words and meanings all differ. Again pride is presented as always a negative, described as such, presumption, vanity, vain boasting, haughtiness and arrogance. Quoting from a text “pride makes impossible a right perspective toward both God and man”. My contention remains “only plans which coincide with Gods purposes will succeed”. This coming from a humanist perspective, is egregious and erroneous, self is eliminated. It’s as if we can’t do anything aside from the help of a deity, even making and informed opinion or decision.

So if we look to Proverb 16:18 Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall, not pride goeth before a fall. This simply shows that destruction is the end result of pride.

Pride disguises itself as false humility. Really the root we’ve seen is personal, such as regret, self-hate or loathing…but mostly unhappiness. We can attach emotion on to anything to justify our current feelings.

The remaining question is how do we overcome this. The secret folks, is you! Others and things brings us temporal joy. The first step in this journey is becoming aware, knowing you and being honest with ones self. I’m going to keep the prescription simple, but before I do we need to look at the number one component, the heart. The heart regarded as the seat of affections, the seat of intellect, also the will. Often it signifies the innermost being. Lastly the word heart implies the whole moral nature of fallen humanity. In the last part we will deal directly with overcoming. The bible only tells you to not lean to yourselves or your own understanding; this doesn’t help people to overcome. We live in a practical world, so we need practical advice and antidotes.

Written by John the Revelator